Monday night was our 4th Pre-Cana session. Last week's meeting was canceled due to crazy weather, so we still have one more session next week when we will receive our "Pre-Cana Diploma". This week the Church's Deacon led the session, and he touched upon a variety of things. First he started off by talking about romance, a fitting lesson as Valentine's day approaches us. He told us a story about a friend who came to him for help after his marriage of 17 years failed. When he asked this friend "What happened?" The man replied "The romance was just...gone". The Deacon responded with: "Then shame on you."
Romance isn't something that just happens. In the beginning, sure...romance is there. It's new and exciting and wonderful. But after awhile romance is something YOU BOTH have to completely work at to make sure it's present in your relationship. It doesn't matter what it is: an elaborate dinner date at a nice restaurant, or Friday night take-out while you watch a movie. He suggested we go out, or have dinner just the two of us at least once a week, (easy to do now, but he means especially when we have children) in order to keep the romance alive. Romance can be rekindled simply by calling your significant other in the middle of the day to let them know you're thinking about them. It can rekindle by sending a cute text, buying a card, sending an email, holding hands, getting flowers and a whole host of other things.
True adorable story: My dad brings home flowers for my mom at least once every other week, sometimes once a week. On more than one occasion, the clerk at the store has asked him "What did you do now?!" Haha! While that's pretty funny, it's a little sad that the clerk assumes something must be wrong for this married man to be buying flowers. Why can't he just be buying them because he loves her!?
We then talked about the 7 Sacraments which are:
Anointing of the sick
A Sacrament is a religious symbol, or as wikipedia defines it: "A visible sign of an invisible reality." The water in baptism, the holy oil in anointing of the sick....or the rings in matrimony. He explained that matrimony is one of the two service sacraments (the other being Holy orders), because we are agreeing to serve each other in love, and committing to a new and different life together in marriage. The Deacon then talked a lot about each sacrament. This was definitely the most "religious" session we've had so far, but being that this is all new to me, I didn't mind it.
Tonight we are going to a Bride & Groom event at our venue: The Sandcastle!!