The First Dance

Unfortunately, Chris and I don't have "a song" ....we just never really found that song that defined us. Sometimes this bothers me...most time it doesn't. Considering I was a music major I feel like I, of all people, should have "a song" because music is so important to me. But somehow...Beethoven's "Pathetique Sonata", or Chopin's "Waltz in E minor" just doesn't make the cut as a first dance song (though ballroom dancing would be pretty impressive!) We also have very different tastes in the music we listen to. "All I Ask Of You" from Phantom of the Opera is quite different from Van Halen's "Why Can't This Be Love". I also tend to like more mellow musicians like Jack Johnson, Guster, Matt Nathanson, John Mayer...and Chris likes rock music. We both like DMB, and may end up going with one of his songs...but certainly not "Crash Into Me". Though I truly love that song, it's so overdone at this point..and reminds me too much of all those long lost crushes of 8th grade.

It also reminds me of my '99 family vacation to Canada where I told my parents to listen to this "really amazing song". They popped in the cassette tape (jeez I'm old) I had copied and started playing "Crash Into Me" as we drove to Niagara Falls. My parents remained silent for quite some time as the song played, and kept exchanging worried glances at each other. I was very confused..."What's wrong with it? This is a great song! I don't get it!" What followed is a bit hazy, but by their worried expressions it suddenly dawned on me what the song was actually about. As the lyrics "Hike up your skirt a little more" came on, I thought my mom was going to have a heart attack and I sat in the back with my sister willing the song to end but it just.kept.playing. In short, I was mortified, my parents didn't really care to listen to any more songs and "Crash Into Me" was never quite the same for many years after. 

It's exactly what happened in 3rd or 4th grade when I brought home the Ace of Base CD that I borrowed from a friend. The first song on it was "All That She wants, Is Another Baby" and I'll never forget the worried expression on my parents faces as they dissected the lyrics and told me they didn't really think this was appropriate. Again..I never even THOUGHT about what the song was actually saying, I was in 4th grade!! All I knew was that I liked to dance to it in my friend's living room. (For the record, they still let me buy the cd, Thank GOD! Who didn't have Ace of Base's "The Sign" growing up?) However, from that point on...everytime I listened to the cd, I thought I was this rebellious, grown-up kid who listened to those crazy baby-making, "Living in Danger" singers from Ace of Base.

Back to "our song", I've never had that one song that I always wanted to dance to at my wedding from the ripe age of 10. That certainly would be helpful to me now. Ugh!! Why wasn't I planning my wedding at 10?? This would all be so much easier!! Haha, so for the time being..I am making my way through the songs on This Website. So far I'm on page 3 of 26, but it has been tremendously helpful, not only for picking a first dance song, but for picking songs I like in general. Many of these would be great for slideshows, or to just be played at our wedding in general and I'm enjoying going through them.

This site has the good, the bad, the ugly and the confusing. For example, I'd like to point out that "Be Our Guest" from Beauty and the Beast is on this list. It's a great song..but for a first dance? Also, "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood. Can you imagine if Chris and I are introduced for our first dance and on comes "Before He Cheats"?

"Right now, he's probably slow dancing with a
bleached-blonde tramp
And she's probably getting frisky
Right now he's probably buying her some Fruity little drink
'Cause she can't shoot whiskey
Right now, he's probably up behind her with a pool-stick
Showing her how to shoot a combo
Oh and he don't know..."

Actually, "right now" he's dancing with his new wife, who hopefully isn't a "bleached-blonde tramp" and hopefully not getting "frisky" because lots and lots of people are currently watching. I mean...if we were following the new trend of doing a funny dance, this song could work, but come on, let's have a little faith here people! You've been married for 2 hours!! Hopefully he can put off cheating at least for the night!

Lost of new love songs will come out between now and our wedding, and there are so many good classics that I would be happy with, too. I'm obviously not in a huge hurry, just starting to think about it and get an idea of what we'd like to have.

This weekend, we have two appointments with photographers: Deja Vu Studios who were recommended by sandcastle and Franklin Square Photographers, who I'm much more eager to see. I'll let you know how they go!

Finally, My dear friend Ben sent me and my fellow engaged friend, Ashely, this Slimfast ad this week. For the record he stressed not once, but TWICE that he was not sending this to us because he felt we needed to see the ad. Sure Ben...sure. ;)

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